Deficiency of words to express

In fourth standard at school, fighting with a class fellow due to the issue of color box, giving her a tight slap, all the noise in class disappears like a naughty spirit, all eyes fix on me, she start crying with massive tears in her eyes, she leave the class, go to the staff room, complain the teacher.  Teacher calls me in her office; ask me, “Did you do this consciously?” I unable to understand the word “conscious” but guess that it means that all had done accidently, I say, “yes, I had done this consciously”, a noise clap enters my enters my ears, after few second I become able to understand that teacher slapped on me, after that I got punishment but have a lesson that I have few words to express me, I start feeling deficiency.

Now in the young age I am known to a lot of words to express myself, my feelings, my suggestions but there is still a problem that I have less words to express my feelings, I feel difficulty to express the exact thinking of my mind beside that I am known to thousands of words, to solve this I search on Google for the solution as a result got books for words vocabulary, buy a book “4000 words essentials for vocabulary of educative persons” , I think I got many words, also read English more and more on blogs, newspapers etc but still I need much more words to express my feelings and thinking, still I feel deficiency of words to tell others what I have and what I see.

Resulting all this I feel that every one of us feel deficiency to express what the feel, what they know, what they experience. May many of my readers agree with me or not but it is a great flaw in our languages and words that we feel deficiency to express. More I believe that the person having most advanced and comprehensive memory of words also deficiency of words to express.

Different styles of speech or talking to others

Amina sitting in her college canteen, age of 20, enjoying strawberry and French fries, with three of her friends, in very relax mode while talking to her friends her eyes looks finding something new around, may her eyes looking for the thing that can be unseen to others and just imagine by her at that time, has tension of result of exams announcing tomorrow but looking calm and cool, hiding her disruption in her self, her friends are unconsciously focusing on her every word cause she has habit to talk with courage, she don’t try to make fun of everything, she believes to talk when other quite and unable to solve or end a matter, her left leg is covered with right one but there is no vibration in legs as usually others do, she believes to be confident, against losing confident and hate over confident, her style of speech is not so over nor so creepy, she always tries not to let others to make fun of her speech, she hate those girls who every time discuss about others faults or back bites others or taking from ear to ear , many of times she drill her eyes into her friends eyes to focus on the sentence or statement, sometime she pause to get comments and responses…

Ali marketing from shop to shop, mall to mall, dealer to dealer, wearing a grey two piece with a blue tie, carrying a hand bag on his bike, giving him confidence at every step, charging himself while leaving the first shop and entering the second one, maintaining his personality, honor and confidence, adopting different styles of speech and talking to the clients, know how to peruse, learn from hundred of mistakes in talking impressing others by his boldness, courage and calmness, smiling due to his style of perusing, knows how to make his tongue sweet for others to make them agree for what they don’t agree usually, making a delightful rhythm of talking and gestures of hands and face moving his lips and eyes to give expressions of deep sincerity, maturity, experience, making others believe with movements of his   hands and tongue that they must have to trust him, known as the successful marketer of his company..

Kaleem doing job in government sector, have a professional diploma, a little satisfaction with his job, knows how to deal with those who look sincere with him but not actually, acquiring the knowledge from experienced ones, protecting himself by making extreme sincerity in official hours, doing all unconsciously but conscious with his mind that no one is here belong to him, giving the status of alien to all, trying to give impressions of dedication and sincerity to his  officers, taking the work seriously as much as he is serious about his salary after a month, listening everyone but talking when required, style of his speech are polite and serious , give smiles where needed, he can understand that job is job, duty is duty, fun and enjoyments are not a part of it, get experience from his mistakes, leaving those who want to make him friend and then want a funny company of him, good employer in sight of his boss, silence and pauses are most weapons he got in this war, appreciation and trust of officers come to him with in few months…

How others listen quietly to you? Or how you can get concentration of others?

It is natural that we want to share our mind with others. God gives us many parts of body to pass our message to others. Most useful of them is your tongue. If you have something to say to your friends and other and you don’t succeed in getting attention of listeners or receivers then you become hopeless and feel unconfident and egoistic that why these people are not concentrating on me and why they don’t want to listen what I have.

I have some techniques for you if have problem of getting concentration by others,

• First check your look and ask yourself that can you get concentration by others, in this dressing and style, or not, you can use mirror for this purpose.

• Secondly combine all of your confidence and maturity expressions you most need.

• Now check your time to tell and give message, whether it is funny or purposeful message but speak when others want to listen to you and they are silent for this.

• Give your speech, joke, comment a polish look by your expressions required then……

Watch the magic

Remember, if it doest works initially don’t lose your heart try it 4 to 5 times.